It’s My Time, not Yours!

Running out of time seems to be a daily occurrence in my life, and I know for a fact that this is happening to all the busy people in my world, not just me.  I plan my day in pencil since it changes daily. 

Many times in the past I was approached by people I knew who invited me to “meetings” telling me this is a great opportunity, but that is all the information they would share.  Being the nice person I am, I showed up at the time and place specified only to sit through a sales pitch for some marketing scheme or new start-up.  As time went by slowly, I was creatively thinking of a reason to leave the meeting early, and wondered why I let myself get cornered into this situation. 

I am sure I am not the only person this has happened to, especially in today’s economy.  Many friends and acquaintances are starting new jobs or getting involved in group schemes.  They are told to approach everyone they know so they can build a stable of contacts that can be used by the company long after they leave.

My biggest complaint in this scenario is that I am not told what the meeting is about or what their intentions are.  That is the first clue for me to stay away.  If they were my friend they would respect my time, which is one of the more valuable things in my life.

Being more direct, asking why people want to meet with me and what they want to talk about is the way I manage my time.  Deciding if I want to know more about what they are doing and getting involved with them is my choice.

Once time is spent, it is gone forever.  Choose wisely.

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  1. Yes Nancy spot on here. Great article.
    Have being bait and switched in my early years to attend meetings etc. I learned to screen them out beforehand. Another trick I use is I keep track of people on my phone on their contacts if they missed a meeting with me or never answered an important email. This technique comes in handy when they want a favor from you. I just plain bring it up. When we meet people at your happy hour’s I always try to at least meet someone knew and introduce them to someone who may be interested in their line of service.
    If I meet someone new and trade business cards and I say email me, they say ok. I email them to say hello or offer a business opportunity or another contact for them–I wait about a month and then throw theirs away. Networking is real and even though we use digital methods to communicate, we need to capitalize on the analog world to make things happen.


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